We also come to understand that in each conflict, every time one of our childhood beliefs is triggered, the trauma we experience has very little to do with the present-day situation and everything to do with the past event. Thus, in going through a regressive process, we put our past and present selves into perspective. The results are insights that are nothing short of extraordinary.

It is really exciting work. Each time we do a Step and discover a core belief, it is like pulling a thread that begins with the story of conflict we are having as an adult and ends when we discover learned beliefs that have been dictating self-destructive behaviour all the way up to the present day.

As we discover these beliefs, we see how ridiculous and damaging they are. As we put them into perspective and acknowledge their effect on our behaviour, something remarkable happens as our emotions begin to change.

Suddenly we start to understand our behaviour and our experience of others in a different way. Thus, when conflict occurs, our new perspective does not allow us to react in the same old way. We start to be far more conscious of what we are doing and why we are doing it, and, increasingly, the concepts of blame and victim consciousness show themselves to be totally unjustified – no matter the situation.

Again, with the regressive process of BreakThrough we don’t become better people in the sense of a new and improved self. Our focus, by working with the Steps, is to simply uncover what is quite naturally already there and was there right at the very beginning of our lives. As we more deeply understand what it is that has kept the faulty beliefs, defensive armour and personality masks so rigidly in place all our lives, a mental flexibility begins to be felt. Obviously this makes for a dramatic change in how we deal with conflict, as we confront it in an increasingly conscious, responsible way.

Thus, when we say BreakThrough is a regressive process, we mean it is a process of coming home to the self, coming back to our natural way of being, which can be very different from how we’ve come to live our lives.

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